Justice should not only be done, but should manifestly and undoubtedly be seen to be done

Yes, the quote above is from Lord Kewart, CJ in the case of
R. v. Sussex Justices, Ex parte McCarthy.

This really got me thinking the whole of last night and today. Well it was only for a total of 2 hours at most as I fell asleep thinking about it, and I continued thinking about after I woke up and drove to work.

Yes, A person’s words and actions towards another means a lot. Here, I’m talking about on a personal level (i.e. friends, family and etc; whomever you are close with). As a friend to many people (well, ok, I’m lying, to a few people), I personally feel that what I do or say will reflect what I think of them. Of course you can try to disguise it if you don’t really like the person, but why live a lie?

So yes, all my friends know me for being frank and direct. And just by saying we are friends doesn’t really mean we are friends. We have to behave like friends. And this not only applies to your friends, it applies to your family, your spouse, your boyfriend/girlfriend and et cetera. Anybody can say, “Hey, that guy, Mr. X is my friend. I’ve known him for a very long time.” So what if you have known him for a very long time? Time is bollocks!! It is what you do or say that is more important than anything else in the world.

Of course, the weight of a person’s words can be as precious as gold or as cheap as an egg. It’s really up to that person to decide how willing he/she is to make his statement true. Anybody can say, “I love you”, “Lets meet up!”, or the all time Malaysian favourite, “Eh Next time “yumcha”!!”. Yes, all these phrases don’t mean a damn thing if all the person does is just say it. A third party who hears it may think wow, this people are really close. But in the end it is not what other people think that matters, it is what the other person’s; whom you spoke to, thoughts that matter.

Yes, growing up and experiencing all those bullsh!t promises has made me a more caring person. I’ve learnt to behave the opposite of what I’ve experienced to people who mean the most to me. I’ve always tried my best to honour my word when I say,”Let’s meet up!” Especially to people whom I’m really close to. But then again, more often than not, some of them take it for granted that I will always do things for them or act on what I say that they just sit back and wait for action on my end. Yes, most of the time I do it because of my principles and what my past has taught me.

But then again, sometimes I realize that, “Hey, this isn’t right! Why should I always initiate something?”

Would anybody care to take over what I do? Or is it that they have far more important things in their life than me, so they also actually do organizing, but only with the people who matter to them, and in that case I am not in their list then. Well, sometimes that maybe the case, and sometimes it is not.

Somehow, I just get this feeling that I’m not on most of my friend’s list, hence their lack of pro-active action. =(

Well, I think its just today. I just woke up feeling really sick of phrases like:-

Hey let’s meet up! (Never happens, without me initiating)
I’ll call you back later (Which then doesn’t happen)
Erm, I’ll let you know, cause if I have nothing to do then I’ll come (which means your event is the least important or meaningful to me)
I love you (… erm… well then show it! ;-p)
Okay! Sure! Lets go on a holiday. Its about time we went holiday together… (then nothing happens on their end)

Well, I’m only sick when people say those phrases to me. But to other people, they are more than willing to act on the above statements. Sigh… I guess I know where I stand now… You may call me whatever you want (friend or etc). You can tell people who I am to you. Heck I’m fine with that! But, don’t take me for granted and say things which you don’t ever mean. One thing my experience has taught me is to be considerate of every1 else, but not to close my heart to them. Had I been a stubborn person, I wouldn’t have given a damn! But the thing is, I’ve grown up wanting to be a better person and opening myself to other people. And that also means, opening myself to get hurt. Unfortunately, that’s how I want to project myself, as a good person who is a very willing friend and more!!

To those who read this, I hope you learn from it. And to those who consider themselves my friends or more than that, stop saying those lines if you don’t plan to act on it. Your words and actions means a lot to me. Just like the title of my blog! You have to be seen doing what you say!

Boodyboy, out!!