What do we men notice? Hmm....
Let me recap an article I read online @ MSN Lifestyle.
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What do men notice when a woman is naked? Everything they see and think and love about your body, according to Jake.
Let's not pretend: The act of being naked with another person is a little weird. It's one of those things, like eating eggs or flying in an airplane, that will completely wig you out if you ponder it too deeply. You're trusting someone enough to bare it all in front of them and then hoping they don't harshly judge your (freckled, dimpled, what-have-you) business.
Even under this scrutiny, though, we men rarely try anything more excessive than sucking in our gut when we disrobe, no matter how anxious we're feeling. I've learned that you ladies, on the other hand, sometimes put on these elaborate shows to keep our eyes from resting on certain parts of your birthday suit. Take, for instance, these true past-life encounters of mine:
• One ex lived in such terror that her (remarkably perky) breasts would succumb to gravity that she always slept in a bra.
• A woman I'll call Joanna had sex only if the room was pitch-black because she was so nervous about her (incredible) body.
• Another was so convinced that her feet were grotesque that if I so much as brushed against them in the bedroom, she was instantly out of the mood. (She eventually took to wearing socks — socks! — when we had sex.)
It might appear that my dating pool is composed entirely of looney tune types who butter their toast with engine grease and sing to inanimate objects. Yet that isn't true at all; these are women who, during daylight, walk down the street with confidence and, I'd hazard to guess, are a lot like you. But, it turns out, normal women still feel a little funky about their bodies.
Here's the thing, though: Being naked with someone is a pact, a sacred oath. The two of you are agreeing to step outside of your inhibitions and insecurities for a while and simply be. Putting caveats on that pact, with no-fly zones he's not allowed to touch or look at, breaks the charm. If we can't leave our inhibitions behind in private, where can we leave them?
That's why every guy I know agrees that the hottest woman is the one who just lets go. "Girls aren't unforgettable because they have 'perfect' bodies," says my friend Dave. "They're unforgettable because they trusted me — and loved themselves — enough to be totally open."
I couldn't agree more. I hit the jackpot with my girlfriend, AKA Strawberry, who has zero hang-ups about nudity. In fact, she'd probably prefer to be naked around-the-clock. She doesn't dress up in fancy, frilly lingerie, and honestly, what would be the point, since both of us want it off as soon as possible? We share the belief that sex is an escape from everything stressful about everyday life, not a place to bring everyday life in.
So the next time it gets to the point where clothes are being shed, remember that we won't be scrutinizing you. What will we be doing (aside from saying "hallelujah!")? Noticing your beauty, your abandon, your attitude, your little quirks, your you-ness. And hoping we won't have to wait too long to see it all again.
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I guess men (not sure whether its in general or just me), would love the feeling that the woman is really letting herself go; open up; feel vulnerable with the man she loves. I mean even a guy would love to open up himself to a woman and to share his life with her. Just remember, we men are just as insecure about our bodies as you do, especially when were naked. Dont feel shy, just let go and be yourself and both man and woman will feel at ease.
And yes, I totally agree with the 2nd last sentence, hence I underlined it. You just being yourself, it just about the best thing a guy could want.
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Boodyboy, out!!
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