You are not just another person

Neither am I.

None of us are "just another person".

We are also never every1's best friend and neither are we every1's enemy. In fact, even criminals have friends and family who love and care about them. We are who we are. But there are also time we become the person we are in different situations. Not all criminals have that bad ass attitude 24/7. Sometimes its just their way of making a living. Sometimes it is how they perceive the way they should lead their life (twisted or evil as they may be).

But I'm not here to talk about criminal psychology. Rather the thing that is at the top of my mind is how people's behaviour or needs/wants are triggered when they meet different people.

Lets just say in a typical social circle that we have (maybe big or small doesnt matter), we have normal acquaintaces, friends, close friends / best friends as well as our boyfriend and girlfriends. When we meet our acquaintances or friends, we have something in common which we agree upon or they offer something to us that allows us to enjoy their company. And that is how you see them, as friends. Some may mean nothing more to you than others.

Next you have very close friends, friends that you share a lot more in common with. You even share your life stories with them, your ups and downs and everything else. However, there are still certain wants and situations that they may dream of, which you do not fulfill their criteria. As much as they are great in all sorts of ways, there is just still something that doesnt ignite that spark.

I guess that spark is the spark where men suddenly realise its the end of their bachelorhood. When they meet some1 who will make them all mushy and yes, that feeling that they are ready for a lifelong commitment (of course, some nvr have that feeling ;-p). For women, maybe its the realisation that their childhood dream of a dream wedding will come true. Or the fact that they have found the person who just has "The One" factor.

The spark is never apparent when you are with your friends nor close friends. Some may always be on the lookout for this spark (including yours truly) while some may have them buried deep inside.

Watching 500 Days of Summer (watched it a couple of times already) allowed me to understand this "spark" factor better. In this movie, A is a guy who thinks he found the girl of his life when he meets B, a charming pretty girl. They hit it off right away, and he feels like she has the spark. He feels like she's the girl that he has been waiting for all his life.

However, through the ups and downs of their time together, it seems that to B, A doesnt have that spark, no matter how charming he was. A always tried his best to show her that he was "the one" for her cause in his eyes, he has found the spark in her. In the end thru much heartbreak, they broke off with B telling A that she was never the marryking kind.

Fast forward a few years later, their paths crossed, and while A is still searching for "the one", B has gotten married. A asked B how could she marry another guy when she told him that she wasnt the marrying kind. B mentioned that in fact, she had found her "spark" when she bumped into her current husband. B told A that A was right all along. She would get married someday, but she just didnt see it in him.

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I guess this is true in real life. Sometimes things dont work out and you always wonder why or how it went wrong. Sometimes, its 2 really great persons who got together but somehow, things never quite worked out. While it is always easy to point fingers, sometimes it could just be that either 1 of them doesnt see the "spark" in the other. Sometimes we may try too hard, in the end trying to shift blames to every1. YOu may feel that everything felt so right, so how can it ever be wrong? However, only you feel that way.

The spark. THat feeling that u seem to know you've found the right person. Its a very good feeling to have, but remember that it is a 2 way relationship. if the other party doesnt see the spark in you, no matter how much you want it, it won't work out. And without doubt, the hurt that comes with it, is of course, very painful.

Soemtimes, it makes one wonder if they should ever try and find that spark again, for the happiness it brings is immense. However, they are those who shy away for fear of being hurt again.

Oh well, its been a very long post. Not sure if many read this far... hehehe.

But its great that i've penned this, cause this topic has been in my head for a few days now.


Boodyboy, out!!

Best movies of 2009

Well, its 2 weeks into the new year now and I've posted zilch.

Once again I'm sorry if my posts are few and far between. Been having very little since i've started my new job. Waking up early and coming back tired at night needs some getting used to. And worse still waking up to year 2010 and my sister reminding me that I'm 26 this year doesn't help.
My reply to her was: but i only turned 25 less than a month ago!!!

Well this is gonna be a short post from me.

I've watched quite a lot of movies in the past year. But the sad thing is that I dont remember many of them. Which only means 1 thing, the movies didnt make much of an impression on me. Either that or I'm plain forgetful ;-p (which is more like me)

Well I have my top 3 movies of last year. This is from the movies I have watched lar... those i didnt watch may not be here eventhough you may feel its better.

3. The Time Traveller's Wife

Nice movie with your not so typical storyline. Loved the originality and the chemistry of both the leading cast.


2. 500 Days of Summer

A little indie movie that made its rounds in selected cinemas in Malaysia. I was glad to have managed to catch it and I definitely did not regret paying RM10 for it. Well worth my money for a story of falling in love, then falling out of it. Its the true story of love.


1. Up

This is by far my favourite movie this year. From the trailer, i wouldnt have guesed that this could be such a good movie. My thoughts before watching the movie was: How good could a movie be when its about an old man and a floating house??

I was dead wrong. Thank goodness I caught it in the cinema. I even watched it 2 more times on my computer.

I could feel a connection with the old man despite it being an animated film. It really touched my heart, more than any movie I have watched for a very long time.


Well, thats my short post for today. Will be hoping to put up more stuff in the near future

Till then,


Boodyboy, out!!!

Movie Review: 500 Days of Summer

Finally got a chance to catch this movie a few days back. This movie is not shown in all cinemas, currently only available at TGV KLCC. Why this is the case, I really don't know. Maybe its the distributorship issue.

Which is such a waste because I think this is one of the best movies I've seen this year if not the best. I'm really torn between this movie and Disney's Up.

THe genre for this movie is romance/comedy. While I agree with the comedy part, i dont think the romance part does it justice. I think its more than just romance. Its a depiction of the roller coaster of emotions a person goes through in a relationship. I would call it relationship/comedy instead.

Joseph Gordon Levitt and Zooey Deschanel are great in this movie as the lead characters. Great chemistry between the both of them. While you watch the movie, you can't help but be totally engrossed in it. And the weird thing is, I actually feel that the stuff that has happened to him is somehow relevant to all of us. I think somehow, it a realistic overview of how love is like.

Here is a short synopsis from the IMDB website:

"After it looks as if she's left his life for good this time, Tom Hansen reflects back on the just over one year that he knew Summer Finn. Despite being physically average in almost every respect, Summer had always attracted the attention of men, Tom included. For Tom, it was love at first sight when she walked into the greeting card company where he worked, she was the new administrative assistant. Soon, Tom knew that Summer was the woman with whom he wanted to spend the rest of his life. Although Summer did not believe in relationships or boyfriends - in her assertion, real life will always ultimately get in the way - Tom and Summer became more than just friends. Through the trials and tribulations of Tom and Summer's so-called relationship, Tom could always count on the advice of his two best friends, McKenzie and Paul. However, it is Tom's adolescent sister, Rachel, who is his voice of reason. After all is said and done, Tom is the one who ultimately has to make the choice to listen or not."

The movie had some really laugh out loud moments. I cant remember the last time i laughed this loud to a funny scene in the movie, but I guess in our daily lives, we mix the good, funny and bad days together.

Below is the trailer to the movie :-)





I really loved the music in the song. It sets up the mood of the scene to get us into it.

No wonder this movie has been highly regarded in movie festivals and also in countries which it has opened in.

Would I catch this movie again? Definitely! My score? 9/10

GO catch this movie before it goes off the screen!


Boodyboy, out!!!